Living the Feng Shui Way
Kids Can Clean House, Too!
By: Kathryn Weber
Publisher, The Red Lotus Letter
Even the youngest members of the family can help out around the house.
There’s a pattern in American households that’s been emerging and it’s harmful for kids. Kids have essentially gone from being contributors to the household, to being waited on hand and foot. Too many moms see household duties as being outside the realm of their child’s responsibilities – and their ability. It’s not only sad, it’s also untrue.
In fact, if kids are fully capable of contributing to the mess of a house, why can’t they be expected to contribute to its cleaning? The problem rests with moms. As mothers we often look at housework as the old saw “if you want it done right, you’ll have to do it yourself.” But, that’s defeating for everybody.
Kids quickly learn that the “auto-mom” will handle all the messes, laundry, cooking, cleaning, and other household jobs if they can prove their incompetence. And Moms get something out of “being the only one” who cleans the toilet right, or folds the towels like they do in department stores. But this has to stop. Otherwise, trying to keep home and hearth together will be a 24-hour-a-day job and we’ll end up with children who’ll leave the home one day and not have the vaguest clue about how to handle household duties.
Have the expectation that kids will do the jobs you’ve assigned them
One of the things that can undermine the process of kids helping out around the house is a parent’s expectation that they won’t do it. Expect that they will do the jobs, check on their progress, and assign appropriate rewards and consequences to the job, and it’s amazing how well kids will perform.
Parents have to realign their minds that kids are fully capable -- and often willing -- to participate in the running of the household and the housekeeping that goes with it. As an example, if you asked your son to take out the trash before dinner, remove the videogame privilege until it’s done.
Yes, it is easier to just do it ourselves, but that’s not practical and it sets a bad example, showing kids that in the real world, there’s someone there to clean up after you. As anyone will tell you, the real world demands that you pick up after yourself. However, not all kids are ready for every household task.
Training kids to clean properly also relies on giving them age-appropriate jobs around the house -- and not expecting perfection. That doesn’t mean they should be allowed to do a sloppy job, either.
As the Cleaning Editor of BellaOnline, I dig cleaning. That’s why I’m the editor of that site. But, I don’t expect my kids to have the same standards that I do. But, I expect them to be able to do an acceptable job appropriate to their age and abilities. When my kids do a poor job, I simply tell them the shirt needs to be refolded, for example, and have them correct the situation to the best of their abilities.
The whole family pitches in when we need to go somewhere and have to clean in a hurry or when we need to do a thorough cleaning. Having kids clean the house teaches them responsibility, appreciation and care for their surroundings, and self-pride in a job well done. That’s something every child should experience for themselves.
Housekeeping Chores and Duties for Children
Ages 3 to 5
Help straighten a room
Help make their bed
Bring items from one room to another
Help set or set the table
Help clear or clear the table
Bring towels to the laundry
Swiffer
Gather trash
Ages 6 to 10
Sweep
Make their bed every day
Do dishes
Straighten and pick up
Load/unload dishwasher
Vacuum
Fold & put away laundry
Dust
Clean baseboards window sills
Take out trash
Ages 11 to Until they’re out of the house
Sweep, Vacuum
Make their bed every day
Straighten and pick up
Operate Washer/Dryer; do laundry
Clean bathrooms
Dust
Clean windows
Do dishes/load and unload dishwasher
Written by Kathryn Weber,the publisher of The Red Lotus Letter a FREE, weekly feng shui E-Zine with tips and secrets that push the feng shui envelope. Log on to www.redlotusletter.com to subscribe.
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